Diwali Week

Ok. The Diwali  week is here. time to cheer, have fun, shop, enjoy, give, love and forget the pains of life. So what am I upto in the coming week? Lets see.. There is work like usual maybe will take a day off. Go to Delhi Haat or Sarojini Nagar market to shop.. ok not for me.. will be driving the ladies of the house around. For me.. no new movies out so thats out.. booze and non veg is out.. its Diwali time folks.. Donating is in.. New phone is IN. Shopping for books is IN. Though i still have loads of them lying nicely and unread.. Eating and Pigging out is IN. Homemade food is In. Sweets and chocolates is IN. Shopping for comics is IN. The "Chacha Choudhry" kinds...The Hatred is OUT.. The Anger is OUT...The Bitterness is OUT. Lots of New posts are IN.


All in all Happiness is IN, Life is IN, New Beginning is IN. Old is out, Sadness is Out. Diwali is after all the Hindu new Year... Lets see where life takes me in the next year.

Why Men and Women cheat?

Why do people cheat...? Lets look at both sexes..

Men

Men have always cheated, are cheating as we speak and will always cheat. That's their nature... well at least most of them out there. Even if you as a female think that your husband/boyfriend has never cheated on you or will never then 99% chances are that you are wrong and equally the claim by your man that when he first met you he was a virgin. Take it from me.. that as we speak he is laying his eyes in the hot female in his office or even the big fat one with loads of cleavage showing. But why we men do that? Simple we can do it. Its easy in the modern day and world and its available.. the temptation that is. We do it for fun for the kick and even at times when we are simple bored with our women. it may be long term, one night stand, fling.. any form but its there and very common.

Women

Men and women cheat on their partners for different reasons. Men tend to cheat because they want more physical stimulation, while women generally have more psychological and emotional motives for cheating.

Women need bonding, love, care, compassion, respect, mental stimulation, praise.. when they dont get that they tend to wonder away to other things... some get into dull life of home, some into profession and some cheat. Women rarely cheat for sex. they cheat for love and care...For them sex in both incidental and a way to show their love. sex for them is an extension of their feelings and not vice versa like men..

Yes women also need sex... every human does and if she does not get it or get it right she too cheats for sex like men do.. is there anything wrong with that? cant really pass judgements here. You tell me what do you think?


Give your feedback here or email me at annoyinggeek@gmail.com


Also Read

   1. Cheating
   2. Cheating - A few Case Studies

Men will be men

And Men will be men...

Socializing + Networking = Social Networking?

 Finally Last week after much persuasion I finally created a twitter account. I still don't have a Facebook, Orkut, Myspace, Hi5 etc etc account not even a Linked in. I really don't understand why do we have social networking.. are we not social enough of networked enough? I mean as Indians we grew up visiting uncles and aunts, parents colleagues where we were supposed to speak that poem we learnt at school man.. when all u could do on TV is watch  the Sunday movie, or "Chitrahaar" on wed for music and the daily 9pm serial.. the likes of "Hum log" and "Buniyaad" and "Yeh jo hai zindagi"..

There was so much to do for everyone whether they were kids, parents, grand parents neighbors whoever.. But now what do we have.. video games, Endless TV, Reality shows, Internet.. No socializing... kids don't even go out to play..Ok they go to football practise, swimming, Tennis, Cricket but thats not playing thats competition. Yup we making our kids into rats... worker rats nothing more nothing less. No one has time sit and talk, to make friends, to understand people, to listen to them, to communicate...And that is why we or you need Social networking. Make friends online or reconnect with them ...


What do people do on social networking sites.?

I joined twitter and posted 2 tweets. started following half a dozen people.. and all i found was the following..

Tweet 1. I woke up. good morning
Tweet 2. Went to the loo.
Tweet 3. Took a dump.
Tweet 4. See me taking a bath(pic attached)

WTF. what is that....
What happens on Facebook or orkut?
Well orkut has primarily Indian and Brazilians  mostly guys looking to do "FRANDSHIP" lets  not even go any further on that..
Facebook though is a bit different. Read a sample Time line of Facebook...

1. XYZ is relaxing at home(2 likes 3 comments)
2. XYZ @bombay (10 likes 20 comments)
3. XYZ posted pics(100 comments 200 likes)

while at the same time people on who are friends on gtalk are posting real time messages on FB and having a chat or at best having a chat on FB chat...

So what exactly are we doing...?
2 things. No socializing but attention seeking. This world is about voyeurism no one is looking to make friends.  Your supposed friend on facebook is actually looking at your honeymoon pics and posting likes etc.. but is he? or simply ogling at your hot wife in those hot honeymoon clothes?

Where is the Networking?
There is none... at best add your boss and coleagues... and then 2 months later wish you had not since they now can look at your drunken pics and your wife and your house and your thoughts .. even personal ones...

Sadly thats what this is all about. What are your views.. let me know....

Weight Loss Program

 A fellow was reading the paper one day lamenting the fact that his doctor has ordered him to lose 75 pounds. Next thing he sees is an advertisement for a guaranteed weight loss program. Guaranteed like heck, he thinks to himself. But lets see what they think they can do. He calls them on the phone and subscribes to the 3 day, 10 LB weight loss program.

The next day there comes a knock at his door, and when he answers, there stands before him a voluptuous, athletic 19 year old babe dressed in nothing but a pair of Nikes and a sign hanging around her neck. She introduces herself as a representative of the weight loss company. The sign reads, If you can catch me, you can have me. Well, without a second thought he takes off after her (like who wouldn't). A few miles later, huffing and puffing, he finally catches her and has his way with her. After they are through he kisses the girl one last time and thinks to himself with a nod, I like the way this company does business.

For the next two days, the same girl shows up and the same thing happens each time. On the fourth day, he weighs himself and, sure enough, he has lost 10 pounds. Deciding that he likes his somewhat more slender physique, not to mention the method of treatment, he calls the company back and subscribes to their 5 day, 20 LB weight loss program. He thinks that losing 20 pounds in only 5 days seems like a lot, but he is intrigued by what their workout schedule might be like this time.

As expected, the next day there comes a knock at his door. When he answers it there stands a 22 year old knockout dressed in nothing but a pair of Reeboks and a sign hanging around her neck. She is simply stunning, the most beautiful woman he has ever seen. She introduces herself as a representative of the weight loss company. The sign reads, If you can catch me, you can have me. He's out the door like a shot. This gal is in excellent shape and it takes a while to catch her. But when he does, it is worth every cramp and wheeze. She is wonderful, the best he has ever had. He is really looking forward to the next four days... For the next four days, the same girl shows up and the same thing happens each time, much to his delight. On the sixth day, he weighs himself and, unbelievably, he has lost another 20 pounds. I love this company, he thinks to himself, I never knew losing weight could be so easy and so much fun.

Feeling much better about himself, he decides to go for broke and subscribe to the companies 7 day, 50 pound weight loss program. Are you sure, sir? asks the representative on the phone. This is our most rigorous program. Absolutely, says he, I love your program. haven't felt this good in years! The next day there comes a knock at his door and he enthusiastically answers it. There stands before him a 200 pound perfect specimen of a man dressed in nothing but racing spikes and a sign around his neck. He introduces himself as a representative of the weight loss company.

The sign reads, If I can catch you, I can have you.

The Computer Programmer and the Frog

 A computer programmer happens across a frog in the road. The frog pipes up, "I'm really a beautiful princess and if you kiss me, I'll stay with you for a week". The programmer shrugs his shoulders and puts the frog in his pocket.

A few minutes later, the frog says "OK, OK, if you kiss me, I'll give you great sex for a week". The programmer nods and puts the frog back in his pocket.

A few minutes later, "Turn me back into a princess and I'll give you great sex for a whole year!". The programmer smiles and walks on.

Finally, the frog says, "What's wrong with you? I've promised you great sex for a year from a beautiful princess and you won't even kiss a frog?"

"I'm a programmer," he replies. "I don't have time for sex ... But a talking frog is pretty neat."

What did Steve Jobs tell Bill gates

Men and their Brains...

Men Will be Men

 

10 things I really want to do..

1. Buy a DSLR Camera
2. Buy a Handycam
3. Visit Disneyland
4. Visit Mauritius/Maldives
5. Visit Switzerland
6. Visit a nude Beach 
7. Buy a Ferrari
8. Make love on a beach.. hehe being naughty ;-) wink wink
9. Fall in love with a total stranger and go on a backpack vacation with her
10. Visit the sin city Las vegas and do all the dirty and not so dirty things there... after all it is the sin city :D

Walk of ideas...

Have you ever taken a walk in the late evenings at this time of the season on the beautiful tree lined roads of Delhi? Have you smelt the cool breeze that gently ruffles your hair? It is such a refreshing experience just takes away the tiredness out of your body especially the smell of the Arjun trees flowers which blossom now for a short few days. Soon the Winter chill will start to appear and we will all be covered up in layers of clothing which help to keep the warmth in the body but takes away the warmth from the soul. Things get so impersonal.. people wanting to rush home early no one stops to talk to you on the road cause it gets late early... hardly any one walking leave alone talking...But i love it. I know it is not the best time for a lot of people for economic, health or other reasons but I love it.. the late evening walks, the early morning chill. The weather, I must admit at times does get gloomy especially when I am feeling sad or lonely. The times when you want to be hugged, kissed, caressed or and even loved. The times when you wish you could just lay in bed with someone and hold hands and talk and cuddle... no no not sex or anything else just being there for you and loving you.... Don't you love the wonderful colors you can wear in winters like the red shirts and not feel too gawdy about them... The scarfs, the caps and the hats... the sweaters and the jackets... yes it does make women all covered up, even the sexy short dressed kinds who often show the red bra strap peeping out or the ones at the back of a bike showing well all their inner-wear including the brand stickers on....

On one of theese walks a thought crossed my mind. what do i create..? I mean come on i work on the internet.. and what do i create? Zilch nothing absolutely nothing.. except for a huge...  really huge carbon footprint. Ok i do create software which powers the internet and one of my pieces of work make you go online almost everyday  but then what do you do with it.. burn more electricity, buy new machines.. laptops, iphones and ipad what not to surf more..so basically i create nothing of any value to mankind or the world...

So what should i be doing...?

One thought that has always fascinated me is to open a  small beach side restaurant not the Italian, Mughlai kinds but a simple sea food mixed options of snacks and meals kinds. ideally in Goa.... all that would be heaven or i could even open a small hotel the kinds with just enough space for 20-30 guests max. the family run kinds with one or 2 helpers thrown in tops...in the hills of Mc-Leoadganj or Scotland  or the beaches of Mauritius or Maldives.. ah  what heaven.. I would be to be able to read a book everyday sitting beside a fire or on the porch every evening with a small drink in the hand.. or to open a small bakery or chocholatere` and all day i could play with breads and chocolate puddings.. Or better still open a small book shop not like the impersonal landmarks of the world but a small time 200-300sq ft shop where every visitor knows everyone.. where you can talk and discuss books not like the salesmen at the big stores who are more keen at looking at the cleavage of women bending over to pick books.... You must be thinking what or how would theese help creating something.. well they wont in anyway either but they will give me happiness and satisfaction. They may give me some money i hope so as to pay my bills and keep me afloat in a comfortable manner but nothing beyond that.

9 days of Navratras

Ok finally its ashtmi today and had fun eating halwa and pooris. finally. soon will be able to pig out and get drunk. yey totally looking fwd to it.  Festive season on. shopping, masti, friends, food, booze nice weather.. what else a man can ask for.. other than sleeping and sex of cource lol but thats not happening anytime soon atleast the latter so let me get busy doing other things.. think need to do a weekend getaway soon. any ideas? suggest people. also any ideas on an interesting post.... leme know... comment or email. you know the email id.

Finger of GOD

Even God says stop Nuclear Testing

Lost

sometimes... I hate myself for being myself and sometimes i love myself ... today i am in the former mood not because i have done something stupid but for reasons of trust, patience, sucess and failure, love ...

Have you ever loved and lost? Have you ever been put down like a used toilet paper..? i know i will move on sometime in my life.. but the cost seems to have been huge... the days gone by wont ever comeback but at the moment i cant do much.

No grudges and no hard feelings for someone else cause they don't cause you harm but we do it ourselves by trusting some people way too much.

Guess i will call it a day now. Good night guys...

Geek Sex

Enjoy and have a good laugh at how a geek has sex ;-)

Sex and Internet Addiction

Busy schedule..

OK. I am back... Been very busy for the last 2-3 days. and lots of things have happened in between including the windows 7 phone launch. Quiet a bit out there on the net and i haven't even have had time to read one article about it. Loads of work piling up and festive season on my head. gifts to be bought, shopping to be done, work to be done, reading etc etc to be done, exam to be given... phew! Already having withdrawal symptoms on booze and non-veg. And not many updates happening on my blog.

Btw heard the CWG is after all the bad press been doing very well. the athletes are happy, India winning medals and above all lots of people going to see the games. yey.

Talking of scams.. the IPL is back in news for all the wrong reasons again. sad and good. Sad cause why do Indians have all the corruption related incidents Why Why Why? Good cause i hope there will be less 20-20. Have had an overdose of it.

PS: Someone sent me a mail after reading my posts on relationship and cheating. The person concerned asks if  watching porn or fantasizing about someone else is also cheating. After all when you watch porn you do get turned on by someone who most likely looks and performs much better than your partner and lets face it you do ogle at their well endowed bodies.. what do you guys think? lemme know. Do you think this deserves another post? tell me tell me? you can post a comment or as usual email to me at annoyinggeek@gmail.com

Cheating - a few case studies.

My earlier post left a lot unsaid and i think it would not be fair unless i cover the topic in a bit more detail.

Lets start with a simple scenario.. Two families living nearby. One slightly well off good looking working  couple with kids and husband in an MNC. Second slightly less of f woman a housewife not good looking at all  husband makes ok money with one kid. Woman gets attracted to the other man. drops letters in his car. few phone calls and few days later the guy is caught by his wife tipped off by  her maid at the other woman's house. What he was doing there is anybody's guess. Who cheated who? Both. The woman instigated it. Why? Maybe physical/sexual attraction or the lure of a good lifestyle. Man why did he do it? The woman was older than the guy by maybe a couple of years too. Well men will most times go weak in the knees if a woman approaches him with sexual undertones. trust me for most men its very difficult to lay off in such a circumstance. Thats the way they are wired by god. Is it wrong? Maybe it is but then who said life is fair.

As i said in my earlier post humans are polygamous. someone pointed out men are polygamous but women rarely. Why? Simple. Men need to spread their seed like trees as far as they can for survival ( god dint think we will outlive and grow more powerful than any other species. he had made us animals too). While women need to hold on and be secure and make sure the offspring grows and survives.(again a throw back from ancient times). Also men have been designed to be more muscle and physical and hence the attraction to sex vs women who are more emotional and hence the emotional bonding stuff. Not that it does not work the other way but in a sense of generally speaking and averages. No wonder most women would agree to stay at home and enjoy the comforts if the men could provide more than the needs and for luxuries too. yes the times are changing and who knows what it evolves to but as of now and historically women are happy to play the sheet anchor role while men strive to earn a living. Most women will argue this point but lets face it somewhere it is true to a large extent weather forced by societies or nature. What do these lines have to do with cheating. Well in my earlier post remember i had said women who stay at home have less chances of their husbands cheating since they are able to dedicate more time to them. Yes i know you now are referring to my above example but you see there the woman cheated not the man.

Lets take another example. A family of 3 happy and another family of 3 all happy. man changes job meets a new woman married with kid and happy. soon enough they are dating and going off on tours.. hmm sounds fishy .. Man gets caught and confronted by wife. the other woman gets caught and confronted by husband. Both acknowledge to the affair but refuse to leave their partners. Why? What they get from each other is what was missing in their marriage.be it emotional bonding, good sex or even thrill or adventure. could be anything which drove them close and the fact that they were close in proximity and spending long hours at work together helped their relationship. Could be that the couples individually had no chemistry who knows.

Lets take a 3rd example a couple in a relationship. not married almost no sex and when it happens looks like a task list point. Man meets someone say an old friend starts talking online soon attraction grows. but it stays at that. They talk about everything. now would you say that this is cheating? Yes and no. Yes cause he somewhere is attracted to this woman while being with another and doing all this behind her back. No because he is already breaking up with the first one. the strains are already there. Or is it ok to fulfill different needs from different people while still being in love with someone else? Is Sex outside a greater sin or emotional infidelity the greater one?Can a person be in love with my girl/boy friend  as the case maybe and still be platonically involved with someone else? Lemme know what you think.. a follow up post may be in the pipeline....

Cheating

I started to write a post on Cheating and had written about 250 words when something in mind went poof.. a blast from the past hit me... and then i gave up that post... spent the large part of the day thinking, walking, pondering again walking in the late evening...

As I walked on the street lined with a few Ashoka(also called Mast trees) trees, the moon in the distance and the soft cool breeze .. the buildings on the other side of the street starting to get decorated for the festive season and the sweet almost intoxicating smell of the Ashoka flowers which start to blossom just now in Delhi and stay that way till the onset of winter. They almost drive me mad.. the smell is so refreshing and intoxicating that one can almost achieve nirvana under that tree and I almost did... the smell is like having a 100 orgasms together and yet so refreshing that you feel like you had none and yet yearn for more... Anyway that made my mind a bit lighter and am back rewriting the entire post all over again with what i feel rather than what the world would make me feel about cheating.. 

What is Cheating? Def: Cheating is an act of lying, deception, fraud, trickery, imposture, or imposition. Cheating characteristically is employed to create an unfair advantage, usually in one's own interest, and often at the expense of others,Cheating implies the breaking of rules (ref: Wikipedia).

But  then who sets the rules? Did god set the rules or we did? or the society did? What rules  did they set and why? Lets try and answer these questions and in the process raise a few for ourselves and other to answer.

Lets first define cheating for ourselves.Here we shall limit ourselves to Cheating in relationships and not any other form of financial cheating, exam cheating etc. I believe cheating is any act when someone's trust is broken. Trust which that person has put in you. The faith that you shall be with that person through thick and thin. To be one not only emotionally but also financially and sexually.  When do we learn to cheat? We first learn how to cheat when we are in school. And surprisingly its our parents who teach us how to do so. Confused? yes our parents did it to us and now we are doing it to our children. Remember who did your holiday homework for you including those stupid charts and projects and models? See now you say aah! but that's not cheating. It is my friend it is. We chat to get good grades in our holiday homework... soon enough we are cheating in our exams, sports.. the list just starts from there.As we grow older we start cheating professionally. we cheat our way through income tax, traffic rules you name it and we do it. But today we will just discuss cheating in terms of relationships.. and not just any relationships but relationships between man and woman, husband and wife, lovers whatever you wanna call it.

By the time we are mature enough to get married or be in a relationship (lets assume it is commited as other kinds of relationships are beyond the scope of this post) we are already lying, abusing our way through everything and the habit of cheating is already well entrenched in our systems. Most people cheat when they enter a relationship. How? Well they hide all previous history of other relationships, affairs and deny any form of sexual activity there by breaking the trust even before it has been well formed. Soon enough people start getting attracted to other people emotionally, sexually or  financially. Why? Because either or both of them don't trust each other and/or compulsive cheaters. The can also grow apart once the initial razmatazz wears of a new relationship and the daily grind hits us. But then why don't we just divorce or break up and move on to a new relationship? Why cheat? Answer is simple - I wanna have my cake and eat it too. Humans by nature are polygamous. Hence are geans are always pushing us to mate with more than one person in order to have the best gene pool in our offsprings... but somehow down the ages our society decided that we should remain commited to one person barring in some religions or societies where a man can have more than one wife but then even there why not the other way round? why cant the woman have more than one husband? Draupadi had 5 of them if you believe in legend.

The whole concept of cheating would disappear if we were allowed to have more than one partner. Don't you think so? I know of so many couples who live under one roof but see someone else. Is that cheating? No. Since the trust is long gone and the marriage is for mere convenience for them and the kids and the society and nothing more. Is swapping of partner or threesome cheating? Again no. And for once i think It may not be a completely bad idea in the modern times.  If as polygamous humans we are attracted to other people then can that one night not only satisfy our hormones but also keep the relationship intact. I may be wrong here and you may not agree with me. Well sometimes even i don't agree with myself. Let me just give you an example. Tom if my partner thinks that she is bored and wants to try and have sex with someone else.. i would probably be livid. but if she comes and tells me that she got drunk and had sex with some one say at an office offsite I may be angry with her but will be more than ready to accept it as a one off incident as long as it remains that. Though i may force her to change jobs. Same way if i were to ever feel sexually attracted to someone i will never be able to leave my partner and have sex with some one else unless my partner is also part of the act. Why? Well for once it will not only give me the confidence that I'm not lying or hiding anything but also my partner will probably have the trust in me and may also spice things up between us.

No I'm not justifying sex here in different formats but only giving an example of what might be ok in given circumstances. Sexual attraction is one of the biggest reasons for cheating.

Having said that there is also something called emotional cheating which I believe is a bigger sin than sexual cheating. Why? Cause you can sleep with someone and still go back to your normal life but once the emotional cord is broken it can never ever be mended back again.Why do people do that? simple as i said have your cake and eat it too. Most people don't want to break their current relationships for fear of society, sake of kids or family pressure but they are emotionally miles apart from their partners and hence the reason to cheat or depend upon someone else for emotional needs. These days we spend mos of our time at work and very few waking hours at home and even fewer with our partners and this is where the emotional gap and needs begin to rise and soon we find succor in someone else and most often that is at work. In olden days cheating used to be much less. why? simple husband comes home.. wife is a housewife she has already done everything and ready to spend time with her husband. No i'm not saying women should stay at home but just pointing out one benefit of doing so. I think once two people have realized that they are growing apart then its time to call it quits or be open about the fact and either call it quits or be ready to live in an open marriage where the pretense of trust is not there.

Also then there is something called financial cheating where a woman for example is attracted by a richer guy and lured by his money ready to spend more time both emotionally or sexually for the lure. This my friends is the dirtiest of all kinds and i'm not even willing to write on this any further.

What is not cheating then? Well just about anything you do with the prior knowledge or willful acceptance or  and participation of your partner  will not be called cheating. Be it sex or sharing some time or whatever you may call it.

This is a topic where i can go on and on but i shall limit my thoughts to only these may words and leave the rest for you to ponder  and comment or email to me.

Brain dead

Sat down today to write a post on Cheating... wrote almost half of it and then the brain got fried. Somehow relationships and topics of love don't go down to well for me. will finish the post in a day or two.

Ok not in a mood to write anything now.. some vodka becons but since its navratra time  it will have to wait for atleast a week.

Hopefully will finish the cheating post tom. cya guys.

Tied by time....

Ok have been extremely busy running from one thing to the next try to accomplish too many things in too little a time and i think that's gonna continue for some time now. The festive season is here and my schedule will only get worse... phew..I desperately need some down time.. Some booze, a good movie, good dinner great company of 2-3 friends.. a pajama party of sorts...but i guess life is not that easy i will have to toil and slog for the next one month atleast... Damn. where is the fun timezzz.....? Anyone for a blind beer date? tsk tsk :D

PS: hopefully a better and longer post this weekend.

Mid Week Crisis

Is there anything like mid week crisis... If there is then I am definitely going through it. Woke up at 4:30 and all zonked.. too much work but no mood to do it.... Help anyone any ideas how to get over it...? Damn.. need some chicks in my office to liven up the place.. men just make the place so unpleasant and boring and colorless.
Or someone hire me in your swanky office with lots of nice people around.. :D

Lets catch up in the evening..cya guys

Love & Relationships

Today as I was going through my old Hotmail account i came across some old emails from my ex girlfriend. She is now married and settled in a different town and everything between us is over. However those emails made me think about us and our relationships.

There are different kinds of Relationships.Between Parents and children, brothers and sisters, other extended family members, friends and other acquaintances, lovers, husband and wife and platonic. Then there are   Broken relationships, troubled relationships, open relationships, one sided relationships, intimate relationships sexual relationships, physical relationships (yes unlike what TV and newspaper might lead you to believe both are actually different ).

All kinds of relationships start from the day we are born. The first one inevitably with our mothers who is the first one to hold her baby in her arms after giving the child birth. The pain she goes through can in no means be described here by me ( a guy) as i will never every know or experience it. The first feel the baby has is when he is fed for the first time he soon learns to smell his mother. This is the purest and most sincere of all. Just unconditional love.As we grow older we have relations like brother, sister, grandson etc etc.

As we mature we start making relationships outside. But what exactly is a relationship? Relationship is a sense of bonding between two people where they share love, emotions, respect for each other, thoughts, experiences etc. How much each of them exists in a relationship defines the relationship. Make the love a bit less and you have a friendship make it more and a lot lot more add a sexual feeling in it and you call it Romance or marriage.

But then you have gray areas in between them. Most of the relationships are governed by Emotional, Economic, Social, Personal, Physical and or Sexual and Circumstantial pressures. But then should they really  be? Men and women can have deep love or mutual admiration or what you may call is chemistry between them but they need not be married or even be friends. Each relationship has its own rewards or satisfactions or even disappointments. Does that mean we can have other equivalent relationships? Does that count as cheating? maybe or maybe not. A woman may be perfectly happy with her family and kids and in deep love with her husband but is it wrong for her to ask for sexual favors from a man outside marriage in case her husband is not able to satisfy her? this can be true vice-versa also. No I am not justifying cheating here but what is cheating? having sex outside marriage and still being devoted to family or staying within the family all switched off and thinking about the other woman/ man or even being in love with someone else? Can we be in love with two people at the same-time? maybe yes but that is not right for one of the two partners as they in most cases do not want to share their love with anyone. so that brings us back to the fact that is just having sex outside marriage OK?

Most read MOST men have had more than one sexual partner in their lives and almost 50% of women too. but as long as its hidden everything is fine in Indian society. Then is it wrong to have a threesome? It happens.. and so does partner swapping (wont use the term wife swapping since it is sexist as both partners are swapped). Even when everyone is fully consenting in either threesome or swapping? I don't know. I really don't. I have no answers to any of the questions. What I know is man/woman by nature are polygamous. only the current society and its bindings make us monogamous. And that is a scientifically proven fact. we all have fantasies about other man woman. If you have watched porn you would have also compared the porn star with your partner and dreamt of being in a sexual act with that pron star or someone you may know in real life even if it is a move star or a cricket star. Is this not cheating? Here i ask what exactly is cheating? Who defines Cheating?

But does that mean pre-marital sex or sex between two consenting adults is ok? Well atleast for men it seems to be at-least in the indian society?These days we have something called Friends with Benefits - FWB (definition -Two friends who have a sexual relationship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogamous relationship or any kind of commitment). The concept may seem taboo or alien to most but is there anything wrong in it? Why cant a single women who has a good friend ask for Sex? While we can allow the man to do so.. here both a man and a woman are involved but the guy is said to be a stud while the woman a slut.

Ok maybe i have mixed too many topics or maybe thats the state of my mind. too confused and angry. Don't know.  I have just penned down a few thoughts that came to my mind because of certain conversations and feelings. they may or may not be right. here i am not stating anything just asking a few questions to myself and you. let me know what you think? do you identify with any of the above thoughts?

My First Nokia mobile phone with camera :)

Busy Zhizzi

I am back..and finally home.. its been such a busy day.. well a manic Monday...Only thing looking fwd to is some highlights of CWG. Saw the wonderful opening ceremony last night. Well i can forgive everybody for the shoddy run up to the games after that. Except for one MR Kalmadi. He needs to give my Income Tax money back. On the brighter side even the world media was all praise for the Commonwealth Games Opening Ceremony. OK Cheers to that go India Go.Guys please try and go to at least one event if you are in or around Delhi lets support our country for once and if u cant then lets tweet,blog do whatever we can to support it. Even staying away from the CWG blue lane helps, pool cars whatever you can.

Caught a bit of Bigg Boss too looking forward to more drama tonite and every night :). Although i hear Bunty chor is already out. so there goes the suspense.

Also it happens that i am an avid reader and a compulsive blogger.. so some of my friends read my blog the other day "Long and Short of it.." and ended up recommending me a book.

Yes it is called "Things better than Boobs". OK all men from the day they are born have a fascination for the female Breasts but no most men don't go around ogling at them barring some perverts and I am not one them. The post was supposed to be an observation on the modern Indian Women and in a good way and more will follow when something like that crosses my mind. Also I think the title of the book sounds funny and i suppose this will be one funny book. Already i can think of  things better than boobs(read sex) like Good food, wine, Video Games, Nice intelligent conversation with a smart intelligent woman and finally what everyman likes to do.. sleep :-).


And here is the joke of the day from my friend Ms X:

A teacher was helping her student with a math problem. She recited
 the following story : 
 
 "There are three birds sitting on a wire. A hunter shoots one of
 the birds. How many birds are left on the wire?"
 
 The boy pauses. 
 
 "None," he replied thoughtfully. 
 
 "No, no, no. Let's try again," the teacher says patiently.
 
 She holds up three fingers. 
 
 "There are three birds sitting on a wire. A hunter shoots one,"
 she puts down one finger, "how many birds are left on the wire?"
 
 "None," the boy says with authority. 
 
 The teacher sighs.
 
 "Tell me how you came up with that."
 
 "It's simple," says the boy, "after the hunter shot one bird, he
 scared the other two away."
 
 "Well," she says, "it's not technically correct, but I like the
 way you think."
 
 "Okay," chimes the boy, "now let me ask you a question. There are
 three women sitting on a bench eating Popsicle's. One woman is
 licking the Popsicle, one woman is biting the Popsicle, and one is
 sucking the Popsicle. Which one is married?" he asked innocently.
 
 The teacher looked at the boy's angelic face and writhed in agony,
 turning three shades of red.
 
 "C'mon," the boy said impatiently, "one is licking the Popsicle,
 one is biting, and one is sucking. Which one is married?"
 
 "Well," she gulped and in a barely audible whisper replied, "the
 one who's sucking?"
 
 "No," he says with surprise, "the one with the wedding ring on.
 But I like the way you think."

PS: Women talk much naughtier and dirtier stuff than men do but blame men for thinking about nothing but sex all the time.hmmmm...

Sunday....

OK. It is Sunday finally! And for a change i have been at home this morning sleeping through most of it. Watching TV fiddling on my laptop. There is loads to do.. loads.. Finish reading my book, do some coding, read up, watch CWG, Watch Big boss..( i love it. sick, though it may sound). And then there are dozen odd chores to run.  Loads to do and so little time.. so its time to run...cya in the evning maybe there will be better post on the CWG and bigboss4

PS: Saw a bit of Gangajal last night on TV. Manyata doing an Item song... Lord what was Sanjay Dutt thinking.. She is a...@#$% I cant even say the words here..A post on that maybe sometime this week.

Long and Short of it..

Today I decided to give my car a break( yes I also worry about the environment and my petrol money too ;-) ) and take the Metro to Gurgaon. Had already planned to meet up with some aaa.... rather 2 of my closest friends or rather girl friends.

I reached the station and was amazed to see the  first compartment reserved for women in the metro. Even the platform had nice pink markers with flowers on it marking the spot where the first compartment would stop and telling you that that place was reserved for women(though they looked more link adverts for breast cancer or maybe i have had an overdose of those adverts and cervical cancer adverts but maybe that is another story another day). As the train arrived i still saw some men sitting in them.. oh well so much for India but since it was the first day maybe they dint know or they dint really care. anyhow i climbed on and the train was acceptable Not much like what i had heard of being overcrowded.. but yes the lack of fairer sex in my compartment was striking. finally soon i reached the MG road metro station and climbed down waiting for my friends.. All i see around me is a sea of women with short er... shorter clothes..

Women of all ages 12- 60, shapes slime to fat, sizes small to tall . just women and women. single women, group of women, couples just women.... with short..shorter clothes and oodles of skin ...shorts, mini skirts, really short shorts, small tops, dresses which were soooo small that i cant describe here in my own words cause they might be unacceptable to people. No no I'm no ogler or any kind pr pervert but if u think this is about sex then you bet it is but not the kinds of bees and birds..this is about the modern bold women in modern cosmopolitan India rather upmarket places like Gurgaon and posh areas of Delhi like GK. Couple of women pass by both in early 30's and one wearing a as my friend later told me was a spaghetti top ( why do women have clothes named after food? do they want men to eat them or what?). okay! this women was well endowed and stuff popping out of everywhere.. yes might be feast to some eyes but was yuk to me.. why cant some people do stuff in style? but she sure had some attitude to do that which here is the positive thing...

Anyway after large part of the day mall hopping and checking out  all kinds of stuff including food and women and their skin show we landed up at the Landmark book store to pick up some stuff.. the girls picked their "magjines" and i looked through some geeky books... was looking for some nice non fiction stuff or some really  nice self help kinds (no i don't read them but want to read  a few of them just to see why do they sell so many of them). Dint find anything interesting or at a price I would be willing to pay for them, maybe will wait for the sale. anyway while checking out our stack of books and magazines I saw these 2 women.. both in shorts and spaghetti tops.. nice fair tall slim.. the works if u get it with a 3 year old kid with them.. one them was dress exactly like the fame i saw first when i landed in Gurgaon (one with large assets) but looked so much better. She knew how to carry herself much simpler. less makeup.. simply awesome...Dont know who said but he was right beauty is in simplicity.

Soon i was on my way back home on the metro and this time a young couple hopped on to the train. the girl dressed in a modern low cut dress with a kind of short skirt..Quiet aware of showy dress and trying hard to hide her legs and cleavage.. she surely dint belong on the train maybe was just trying it out.. someone like her could have stepped straigt out of a corolla or a civic. But she was cute and nice if I may say so..she got off at Saket all trying to pull her clothes together tryiing to cover as much of her as she could...

You must be wondering about my ramblings they don't make sense.. yes they do.. what i have described are 3 women all dressed in similar outfits more or less similar age group say maybe 24 to 32 tops but how different their approach was. one is confident and OTT, one is sexy, bold and smart... maybe a professional too. the third is a cute young not yet spoiled by the nuisances of the modern life yet knows what she wants but is still stuck to the roots kinds of women. which one i liked? All three. they all belong to different places, backgrounds, lifestyles but all belong to the modern independent India. Where women are (more.. and more...) not howled at or ogled at even if a little bit of knee or shoulder is shown. Here some of these women had more than just the lingerie or cleavage showing. But no one was howling, teasing or even ogling at them. Everyone was busy with their own things.. I'm happy to see such an India. but afraid that it may go to an extreme where the tradition of an Indian women may get lost.. Hope these young women know where to draw the line. when to stop and when to cover.. The third youngest of all in her mid twenties gave me hope.

I'm afraid that one day if i have a daughter my also be wanting to wear short clothes. the thought gives me shudders. But hope that she will have the head on her shoulders to think and then decide whats right and wrong, whats the difference between being bold and vulgar, being nice and cute and sexy.

I hope. i hope...

PS: My female friends insist i have had an overdose of skin. i need to go back to being geeky and read books and play on my PlayStation :)

Just some Friday morning fun to keep your beer hopes alive till evning .

Cheers!